Siding With Husband Or Kids

Our kids are generally good kids but they don t treat us with the respect i think we ought to have.

Siding with husband or kids.

That s what you call cynicism. I think they re missing the point. Husbands can take care of themselves. Casting a spouse s opinion aside thoughtlessly disparaging a husband or wife and treating each other dishonorably only hurts us parents.

The above statements give us a great springboard from which to discuss the subject of not allowing your children to come between you as husband and wife. My husband is a good guy. Children pick up these disrespectful cues and then act the very same way towards us. Children also learn to respect parents when parents display respect for one another.

To help with this problem the following article is an excerpt from the fun book don t sweat the small stuff in love there is also a link to an additional article below this one. December 17 2011. It is generally regarded as a major parenting taboo yet freelance writer rachel fong recently sided with her child instead of her husband after a disagreement arose during the family s bedtime. The logic goes like this.

He is very positive and understanding. Only problem i have with him is that even though he loves me a lot when anyone insults me like his parents or brother n he just. My husband said that it takes children about 3 months to get use to an idea and adjust and they will be okay. I dissagree with this yes children are resilient i still dissagree with the whole 3 months thingie though.

To put it another way if the wife is under the headship of her husband then her care for the children is really on his behalf and under his direction. If your husband puts his family ahead of you and your children communicating in thoughtful and direct ways is an important first step in helping him change his priorities your wife your priority if your husband constantly chooses or sides with his family over you it is time for the two of you to take a hard look at your priorities. It is difficult for a man to see his wife cherish the children but treat him in a cool or casual manner. Critics on the other side of this issue say couples should make the children the center of the home after all a marriage may not last they say but you re a parent forever.

When a woman places her children above her husband her actions say to him that she loves the children more than she loves him.